I've been doing a lot of work on this lately personally - and what I can say from my experience is that opposing the conditioning through action is disorienting as well. It triggers negative emotions that, though I realize aren't "mine", are difficult to process. And I notice sometimes I want to get some kind of external validation for not fawning, for being more of my true self, and very often that doesn't happen - which can leave me wondering what the point is of doing all this work, when it just makes my relationships even more complicated, when it creates incongruence.
This is deeply felt and beautifully named. The shift from identification to presence reads like a soft but profound exhale. Thank you for the reminder of what remains.
I've been doing a lot of work on this lately personally - and what I can say from my experience is that opposing the conditioning through action is disorienting as well. It triggers negative emotions that, though I realize aren't "mine", are difficult to process. And I notice sometimes I want to get some kind of external validation for not fawning, for being more of my true self, and very often that doesn't happen - which can leave me wondering what the point is of doing all this work, when it just makes my relationships even more complicated, when it creates incongruence.
I appreciate you sharing, I certainly relate. It’s always helpful to see other people’s perspectives on this.
This is deeply felt and beautifully named. The shift from identification to presence reads like a soft but profound exhale. Thank you for the reminder of what remains.
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Great article . Thank you 🧡
thank you🙏
You’re welcome 🧡